We’re often asked things like “well, if these guys are so bad, why aren’t they in jail??”
This is why
Every time someone tries to tell me rape culture isn’t a real thing, I think about how many women I know who have been victims of rape at one point or another. And those are just the ones who trusted me enough to tell me. I’m completely sure there are more. Here’s the thing – none of these women ever reported their rape.
Why? Because we put rape victims through the wringer in this country. It’s a ridiculous monstrosity against justice and humanity, but that’s the current reality.
I’ve been working cons for a long ass time (16 or 17 years now?), and there’s this weird perception that the bubble in which cons exist is somehow safer than the rest of the world. That “one of us” wouldn’t do something like that. Well I’ll tell you something, for damn sure “one of us” could do something like that. I can guarantee you that at, say, No Brand Con, in its over a decade of history has had at least one sexual assault. In fact, I promise you it has.
Because I was Floor Manager on duty when one of the victim’s friends reported it to the staff.
It’s been many years since this happened, but I remember quite clearly asking the young woman to report it to the police, but she was too afraid to. There was no evidence and she feared no one would believe her. So it went unreported.
Conventions are filled with the same people you find on the street, and the sad fact is a percentage of them are rapists. Most of whom will never get caught. Because our society and culture kind of sucks. I’m not saying the allegations against a certain convention organizer are true or not — I met him for a whole two minutes once at a con, so I don’t know him — but don’t dismiss them just because people in the convention scene are “different.”